Our
Dreamer Writes:
Dear
SMYD,
I’ve always played the role of “Peacekeeper” in our family. It’s something I do naturally - just who I
feel I am. I am very independent and
want people to like me. I am also known
for my weird dreams but last night’s is really stumping me:
I am running around busy getting ready for a funeral of a
distant relative, Aunt H. Aunt H. was my Grandmother’s Aunt who did pass last
year and I did attend her funeral in my husband’s hometown.
The funeral was once again in his hometown but instead of
graveside services it was in a school gym basement and we all had to slide into
it. We had the same sweet stories from
all her grandchildren and respectful mourners, but we also had all of my
husband’s extended family. There are a
lot of them and a lot of current drama amongst them unlike my own peaceful
family. There was no major drama at the
funeral, just some laughs about banana pudding – Aunt H’s specialty. But I did have to constantly remind everyone
to be on their best behavior and make a seating chart of sort.
What
does all this mean?
Signed,
Family
Diplomat
Dear Diplomat,
You don’t mention it, but your dream seems to have some signs of
being a recurring one. Maybe not the
exact dream, but elements of it might have repeated for you over time. This is suggested by the role you play as
peacekeeper/room monitor. In your dream
it's up to you to establish and maintain order.
Perhaps there are events in your waking life that trigger a bit of
anxiety and that same need to take on the peacekeeper/monitor role, to remind
all the actors to 'play nice,' and to take their assigned places.
It’s important for you to be on the lookout
for situations in which you recognize this feeling of not trusting others to
behave well or needing to control their behavior. Once you recognize the circumstance in waking
life, you can apply your dream’s insights to your advantage.
As you mention, peacekeeper/room monitor is a role that’s
familiar and comes naturally to you.
Chances are, your family, and perhaps even your husband’s family looks
to you to fulfill this needed service. The
qualities of Aunt H. whom you admire, are the qualities that will serve you
best in such trying circumstances. Her
passing leaves the vacancy, and you are the likely candidate to continue her
legacy. Another important part of the
reason you're elected is to be a role model for others.
Finally Dear Dreamer, these things may be true "on the
outside" when you are anticipating tricky situations with drama among
family members; but your dream also points to the idea that this is something
you must work on for yourself, below the surface --- the basement of a school
gym, a place where things are learned and replayed. Perfect practice makes perfect!
Sweet
Dreams to You!
SMYD
