Our
Dreamer Writes:
Dear
SMYD,
Two kids,
a husband and invalid mother-in-law is more than one person should have to
manage on her own! Truthfully, I don’t
have more to do than I can do. Some days
I actually feel like I’m a Superwoman.
But it bugs me that my family takes advantage. They act like they don’t even see what’s
going on. I’m the only one who ever does
anything around here! That’s how I was
feeling before this dream:
First, I
was chasing a bunch of ferrets. They
were running every direction and I felt ridiculous. Every time I got them rounded up, they were
out again and I had to start all over.
Then, I
was behind the wheel of the car and I just slammed on the brakes. When I did, the door flew open. I fell out of the car onto the ground. I wasn’t hurt, but I laid there and kind of
pretended I was. I kept peeking out of
one eye to see if anyone would notice or come over to check on me. Sure enough, my husband and some other people
came and stood over me, looking down at me, but saying and doing nothing. My kids were there too, just looking at me. And my friend Kim, the smartest, strongest,
most self-sufficient of my friends was there.
But she also just stood there looking at me and said, “Are you going to
get up from there or what?”
What does
it take to get some help around here?!
Signed,
Tired of Doing
It All
Dear Tired
One,
A key to
your dream comes in the form of your pretense.
No one can argue that you are in a difficult situation with many people
depending on you. It may be a lot to
manage, but by your own accounting it’s not too much for you. You seem proud of what you accomplish, even
calling yourself Superwoman. Yet you
pretend to be in distress. Why?
In your
dream you successfully corral the ferrets (manage the lively and diverse tasks
at hand) and repeat the process each day.
But when you put on the brakes and fall to the ground, you seem to be
looking for attention, or maybe credit or accolades for all you’re doing. Have you asked anyone for help, or should
they be reading your mind?
Kim, that
strong, self-sufficient part of yourself is unimpressed with your display. She reminds you that crying ‘wolf’ doesn’t
fool anyone. You can handle the jobs you’ve
taken on.
If you’re
truly feeling burdened or resentful that no one appreciates you or steps up to
offer assistance, putting on a false show of distress does not bring the
response you’re looking for. Be
real. The best way to get what you need
is to ask for it! Your husband most
certainly could help with his mother.
Your kids may be able to contribute as well, depending on their ages. Speak up for yourself, Dear Dreamer!
Sweet
Dreams to You!
SMYD
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