Houses and living spaces may symbolize a dreamer’s
state of mind – the place s/he lives mentally.
Today’s dream of a beautiful house with a shocking secret room presents
a clear example of this interpretation.
Dear Carolyn,
My wife and I had a nasty divorce after 23 years of
marriage. I have been single and on my
own for more than eight years now. I
have dated a bit here and there. And I
have had some interest in continuing a relationship since then, but nothing
ever “takes.” It’s been long enough now
that I think I’d like to settle down again and have someone I can look to the
future with. But somehow, someway, no
matter how good things seem to be with this woman or that one, I can’t bring
myself to get married again. Now, two
perfectly good women are lost to me and I know something has to change.
During these years, I have had the same dream more
than once: I am walking up to a
beautiful mansion. The grounds are
well-manicured and the interior is lovely.
I begin wandering through the rooms and the hallways, finding one
charming area after another. Then, on my
left is a door with a polished plaque marked “Marriage.” When I open the door, I am horrified to see
stacks of dead bodies! I know I have to
carry them out of there because of the health concerns, but instead, I decide
I’ll do it later. I back out of the
room, close the door and leave the house.
Signed,
Single Too Long
Dear Single,
It must be clear to you already that the bodies in
the room marked “Marriage” represent the dead but not buried resentments,
accusations and residual anger from your nasty divorce. There they are, stacked up and festering in
what is otherwise a beautiful state of mind.
No doubt, such a collection of antipathies will work against your stated
desire to remarry and spend the remainder of your time in a committed
relationship.
The good news is that you acknowledge you must carrythat stored bitterness out of the house, as your Dreaming Self states “because
of health concerns.” It is unhealthy to
harbor such bile, Dear Dreamer! You have
put off this task, as mirrored by the decision in your dream to take care of it
later, to back out of relationships that are beautiful in many aspects.
A starting place might be to work with your dream in
your waking state. Consider taking some
quiet time to close your eyes and visualize how you can dispose of those bodies
and release those animosities. You might
take them out in wheelbarrows, or burn them in a fireplace. You could imagine their transformation into
rats that scurry away. The idea is to
begin the process of looking your past in its ugly face, recognizing it as
separate from your present life and dismissing it body-by-body until it hampers
your future happiness no more.
Sweet Dreams to You!
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