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When we travel with someone in our dreams, that
person likely represents how we travel through our daily lives. Think of that person’s prominent personality
traits. Chances are, they are yours too,
for better or worse. Today’s dreamer
offers a clear example for our purposes.
Dear Carolyn,
“Mary” is the smartest person on my staff. We have worked together over five years now. I see her as working too hard at
her job, to the point of endangering her mental health, her optimism and
happiness. She doesn’t have many friends
on staff and seeks out my company. She likes
to help me think my actions through and dissects possible outcomes. She can be helpful.
The down side of this is when she takes it to the
extreme. She over-analyzes my decisions
and nit-picks my performance as the boss.
She can be pretty negative and pessimistic.
Now I’m dreaming about her! In the dream, Mary was taking me to a Mensa
meeting – the high IQ people. It was a hassle
to get there as we were at work and it was an extremely busy day. When we got there, the meeting seemed to have
no purpose. The members were socializing,
but not much more. I felt frustrated at
the waste of time. I challenged them to
define a purpose for their meeting.
Then,
instead of feeling rested, I woke up feeling frazzled, just like I do at work!
Signed,
Me and My Shadow
Dear Me!
Traveling companions in our dreams, those we move
with from place to place, frequently are stand-ins for ourselves. They show up as metaphors for facets of
ourselves that come to the forefront in the circumstances of the dream. These are also the circumstances of our
waking lives.
In your dream Mary provides a representation of
you: the perfectionist, worrying and nagging part that goes everywhere with you.
You don’t use the term, but Mary is a complainer, too. You may not complain externally, but check the
way you talk to yourself, Dear Dreamer.
Such a persistent and negative internal dialogue runs the risk of
ruining your good humor and happiness.
A nice way of saying it is that Mary represents the
part of you that is intelligent and always seeking improvement. The blunt way is to say that you can be a
pain in your own neck!
The fact that the Mensa meeting had no purpose is
telling. If you put your brains to a
purpose, you can accomplish great things.
But pointless analysis and worry is worse than pointless. It’s self-destructive. Your dream suggests that by keeping company
with a ‘Mary state of mind,’ you run the risk of endangering your own mental
health, optimism and happiness.
Consider limiting the time you give Mary in waking
life. It may be social for her as she
appreciates your intelligence and has few other friends in the workplace. And you must also limit the time you give to
that critical voice in your head. You’re
smart, but you’re wasting time spent on criticism without a purpose.
Sweet Dreams to You!
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