Flaky dream points to important thoughts

Sometimes our dreams shock us into awareness of something we would rather not face.  Today’s dream offers an excellent example of what happens when we ignore our nagging thoughts:

Dear SMYD,

My husband and I are practically newlyweds, only married 14 months.  But I’ve already noticed a lag in our romantic life!  I expected that things would change as we got older, but we’ve slowed down a lot, and much sooner than I thought we would.  There seems to be that sexual tension between us, but we don’t act on it, maybe because we both work hard and are just plain tired.  I love him completely and would never do anything to harm our marriage, and so it really bothers me when I realize that I’m having “stray” thoughts at work when an attractive man comes in the room!

Now I’ve had this dream:  All through the dream I have big flakes of dandruff itching on my scalp and coming loose, falling all around.  I don’t want them to show, but they do, so I have to keep brushing them off.  While this is happening, I find myself in bed with a very young guy!  Completely inappropriate as far as I’m concerned!  Then, I was in a different setting and I was attracted to a woman!  I am totally straight, but in the dream, it looked like something might happen between this woman and me!

OMG!  What do you suppose all this means?

Signed,

Shocked by My Own Behavior

 

Dear Shocked,

Frequently, dreams of our heads, our hair, or perhaps even our scalp, will point to changes in our thoughts, or our patterns of thinking that call for attention.  Your dream has you constantly brushing away the evidence of pesky, unwanted thoughts.  No matter how many times you brush the flakes away, they return as a reminder of your underlying state of mind.

In your dream your attraction to a younger man might be reflective of your desire for a younger, more vibrant love life – with your husband!  You say quite plainly that he’s the man of your dreams, but the two of you are behaving like a much older couple.  And your attraction to a woman in your dream, something you designate adamantly as forbidden, again speaks to that part of your mind that wanders, fantasizing about the excitement of a sexual encounter instead of the unresolved tension in your marriage. 

Just like brushing away the flakes does not treat the dandruff, pushing aside the changein your intimate relationship with your husband will not help thesituation.  You’ve got to have ‘the talk,’ Dear Dreamer.   Otherwise, the problem simply persists and your uncomfortable thoughts will continue to trouble you, at the very least!  Your relationship is founded on commitment and love, so who better to talk to than the man in question?  Chances are excellent that he will be relieved when you open the conversation.  Or of course, you could follow the advice in that ad and “Just do it!”

Sweet Dreams to You!