Cross the threshold to your new life!

Our Dreamer Writes:

Dear SMYD,

I’ve been widowed a number of years now.  I had a wonderful marriage and I’ve missed my husband so much.  At the same time, I’ve continued an active and stimulating life alone.  Recently, for the first time, I found myself very attracted to a ruggedly handsome man I met in professional setting.  Then I had this dream!

I don’t remember all the details, but here goes: I was in an office with a young woman.  I can't describe her.  I just get the feeling she was younger than me and we needed to go somewhere.  A man (can't describe him either!) offered to give us a ride in a Jeep.

We drove a very short distance and came to a very wide creek.  There was frozen ice on top of the creek, and there was snow on top of the ice.  I was apprehensive and said that we couldn't go this way.  But the man said we would drive into the creek and go under the ice and come out on the other side!

Then he drove the Jeep into the creek and we became stuck under the ice.  The man died.  The next thing I remember I was out of the jeep and in the water.  My face felt cold and I could feel the ice over my head.  I felt trapped under the ice and I couldn't get out.  Finally at the bank, I managed to work my fingers through the ice where it was thinner.  I banged it with my hand and it gave way.  The young woman and I managed to break through the ice with our bodies and emerge from the creek.

That is my scary dream!  What do you think of it?

Signed,

Still Alive

 

Dear Alive,

You mention an interest sparked and a stirring of feelings that have been “on ice” since your husband’s passing.

Your dream suggests you're approaching a threshold in this regard, depicted by that icy creek.  You’ve kept your emotions in check, and perhaps now feel trapped by the cool exterior you’ve practiced for so long.  In your dream you said, “We needed to go somewhere,” suggesting you need to cross this barrier to reactivate that dormant part of your life.  The transition requires that you take up a younger state of mind represented by the young woman traveling with you.  

On first consideration, you don't think it's possible or likely that you'll be successful making the transition through the icy waters.  In spite of your hesitance, the man in the Jeep, a rugged and sporty vehicle (perhaps your attractive new acquaintance), says, in effect, “We’ll just take the plunge.”  His strategy did not pay off for him!  And it's a scary struggle for you to make the crossing.  But take heart, Dear Dreamer!  You break through the ice and come out on the other side with that younger woman and state of mind.

Best Wishes and Sweet Dreams to You!

SMYD