Our Dreamer Writes:
Dear SMYD,
Having my mother and a
war in the same dream doesn't surprise me. My mom can be difficult! But I am peace-loving woman who does not
watch violent television or films. I
even turn away from commercials with violence.
I dreamed about going to
visit my mother's home. My mother did
not tell me that some important people would be visiting. Guests showed up without notice.
In the dream I took the
dog for a walk in the backyard. The
entire yard had become a violent battlefield. One man's head had been cut off. Someone I know stood up to her ankles in
earth-orange mud and was beating up another man.
Why would I have such a
violent dream as this one?
Signed,
Startled by the War Zone
Dear Startled,
Sometimes our Dreaming Selves choose bizarre or violent
images to shake us up and get our attention, especially if there’s an issue we’re
avoiding. Since your dream has these characteristics,
I suspect you avoid confronting the key issues with your mother.
In your dream, you go to visit your mother whom you say can
be difficult. In spite of this, you don’t
expect the “important people” who show up.
These people could represent the important issues that have been
unaddressed in your relationship. You
didn’t expect to have to deal with the important issues between your mom and
yourself. So you avoid them by taking
the dog for a walk outside instead of staying in the house with them and your
mom.
Perhaps you’re accustomed to faking it in the living room, avoiding
the unpleasantness in public. But the
back yard tells the real story: Behind
the scenes, it’s a war zone! Because it’s
your mom’s back yard, the implication is that these people represent issues in
her/your history (behind her house) that are out of sight, but still
influential.
It is important to think more about the man whose head was
cut off. Who is he? Who does he remind you of? As soon as you figure out who he is, you’ll
be able to identify the issue he stands for.
Without his head, he has no direction, no ability to think or speak. What he would say may be so painful that your
mom (and maybe you, too) chose to cut him off before he speaks.
Who is that woman wading in the blood, er mud? You say it’s someone you know. Explain her to me ~ what is she like? Does she listen to others and argue with
reason and logic? Or does she fight
dirty? How about you and your mom…do you
fight fair?
The man this woman is beating ~ does he deserve to be beaten? Does he fight back? Why is he losing the battle?
These are tough questions, Dear Dreamer. The key to understanding this dream, your
mom, and your difficult relationship with her lies in teasing out the metaphors
in that back yard battle.
Sweeter Dreams to You, Dear Dreamer!
SMYD
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