Dreams of death can be unsettling. The good news is that in the language of
dreams, death represents letting go of the old self to make way for the new
self – a necessary step in personal growth.
Today’s dreamer offers an example.
Dear Carolyn,
I am worried about a strange dream I had a few weeks
ago. It is on my mind all the time and I
would like to know what it means.
In my dream there was my daughter, myself and
another person. I could only see the
back of the other person’s head and she had a long scarf draped around,
obscuring her identity. Her back was to
me and she was standing just off to the side of us.
I asked this person what my daughter’s birthday was
and I expected to hear May 2nd, 1990, which is her birthday. But instead of that date, this person said,
“March 9th – death.”
I was shocked and asked again. Again, this person said in a loud voice,
“March 9th – death.”
I woke up then very shaken up and had to walk around
the house a while to calm down, but the dream stays on my mind all the
time. My daughter and I are extremely
close, more like friends than mother and daughter. She says she’s ready to move out on her own,
but since March 9th is getting closer, I am afraid to let her
go. I’m scared the dream means that she
will die on that date.
Signed,
Afraid for My Daughter
Dear Afraid,
Dreams of death can be frightening, especially when
they seem to refer to our loved ones. Keep
in mind the language of dreams is metaphor.
In your dream, one word – death – is used to convey a complex idea or
scenario.
You mention that you and your daughter are unusually
close. This suggests that your daughter
most likely represents a part of yourself that is ready to change or needs to
change. That deeper part of you
delivering the message is obscured, but persistent. Perhaps you prevent yourself from hearing the
message straight on. So it comes from
behind the veil, off to the side, but is louder and more insistent than you can
admit.
Your daughter’s desire to move indicates that she’s
ready to make the break – the normal separation of parent and child. In that sense, your dream speaks to the change
in her, the death of her child-like self making way for the young adult she has
become. It also speaks to your fear of
letting her grow up and leave you behind – a death of your “friendship.”
Your dream signals the transformation you must
make. By repeating, your dream insists
that phase of your life is coming to an end.
You must give up the girlish view of yourself, Dear Dreamer. It’s time for both of you to grow up and move
on to the next chapters of your lives. Look
forward to a fresh, reborn relationship with your adult child.
Sweet Dreams to You!