Our Dreamer Writes:
Dear SMYD,
I’m not the kind of guy who looks for
trouble. In our family, my brother was
the one who seemed to enjoy starting things – or finishing them! So this dream seems strange to me. The guy with the squirt gun kind of looks
like my brother, but then, I’m the one with blonde hair, not him. Anyway, here it is:
In my dream I was standing in line to go into
a building. Don’t recognize the building
or know the occasion. Ahead of me in
line, close to the front, is a young man.
He’s tall, wearing a yellow shirt, and has crew cut hair. Every so often, he turns around with a plastic
squirt gun in his hand. He points it at
the forehead of a little blonde-haired boy who’s in front of me in the
line. Each time, the little boy is
terrified. He crumples into tears. The big guy then tosses the gun away and
turns back with a fake smile. “See? No one was really in danger!” He keeps doing this, scaring the little boy
every time.
Finally, when I see that he’s about to do it
again, I step up and challenge him. He
shows me that the gun is plastic and filled with water. Then he turns and tosses the gun away, this
time without pointing it at the little boy.
The little boy hugs my knees and clings to me while I pat his head,
comforting him.
What in the world is that all about?
Signed,
Playing the Tough Guy
Dear Tough Guy,
Your dream suggests a family dynamic is in
play while you and your brother “wait in line” for something. Most likely, you will be able to identify
what it is that you’re waiting for ~ could it be greater status in your family hierarchy? Look for a long-standing emotion-laden situation
that you feel has held you back.
You mention that your brother is one who stirs
things up. In your dream, it seems he’s
doing just that: stirring up old
emotions, fears and doubts you might have felt as a child. Embodied in the little blonde haired boy who clings
to you when you finally decide to stand up to the fake threat is the core of
what’s keeping you in line now. Also,
consider the play on words: Does someone
seem to be bullying you to “keep you in line”?
What would happen if you broke ranks, spoke your mind, exposed the fake
threat?
You don’t mention how you felt when you saw
the threat for what is was - a bluff. But
when you take action in your dream, you become the hero and savior of that inner
little boy. Most times, standing up to a
bully engenders feelings of release and empowerment. Frequently others (like those in line with
you) are hoping someone will step up.
Your dream suggests that you can be the one who does.
Sweet Dreams to You, Dear Dreamer!
SMYD